Son and Mother Poems

About Fatherhood

For most of us, our first father is God. A large majority of the world considers God as their father; or rather call God as their father. God is father to all in such believing families. What about biological fathers? How does one become a good father? What are the yardsticks by which we measure the goodness of a father?

This is a subject for discussion and application of thought. Who is the final judge about the goodness of the father? The mother? The children? The society? What qualities should a man possess to be called a good father? These questions generate a bigger debate.

Can a mother judge her husband about his goodness as a father? That judgment can depend on so many probabilities. What are her yardsticks? How was her father? What are her beliefs? Do these beliefs match those of her husband? How much does she love her husband and her children? If it comes to taking sides, whose side will she take? Will it be a well thought-out decision or one colored by many other factors?

Can the father judge his own goodness? What may be correct according to him, may be wrong according to her children? The man carries his psychological baggage and many times may be prejudging and expecting responses. Generation gap plays a bigger role. As the world progresses, priorities, tastes, values, everything undergoes change. Therefore a man himself cannot pronounce himself as a good father. Children will contest that, if he does not accept their beliefs. Which child will call his father a good father, if the father has set ideas about partying, relationships, studies, etc.

Can the children judge their father? That is difficult to believe. The children surely wish for a father who not only agrees with their ideas, but supports them in all possible ways in enjoying life. What if a child is such that he believes that enjoying life is more important than studying for examinations?

If we think more about this subject, it will result into more confusion. What is to be thought about fatherhood and how does one become a good father? The best way out might be to accept the generation gap, listen to children before giving orders, have a fair debate on all important issues, and tell children exactly about values that will decide the final action. After doing all this, one should simply do one’s duty and leave the rest to prayers. And before attempting to become a good father, one should first become a good man. A drug addict can never become a good father, nor a habitual liar.

The Joy of Fatherhood

Father’s Day is just around the corner. To all the fathers in the world, congratulations! At least you still have time to read my article. Fatherhood has always been challenging and I can tell you that from experience.

It’s still fresh in my memory when my eldest child, immediately after she was born, held my hand for the first time as she showered me with her sweet smile. That was an exhilarating experience . . . and yet that golden moment introduced me to fatherhood. I felt like I was in heaven for a while.

I’ve been a father now for 15 years and it can be tough at times. But overall, it’s been a rewarding journey. It’s been an enjoyable, exciting ride! Believe it or not, I still smile simply because I’ve considered my children as precious gifts unmatched by any gold or treasures in the world.

They’ve given me much joy. Now, I’ve given them back what they rightfully deserve. Allow me to share with you (all the fathers out there) what I’ve committed to do.

As a father, you should commit to four selfless acts so your children can reach their full potential.

Set house rules

If you want peacefulness and camaraderie to reign in your household, establish house rules right away. Let your children know the dos and don’ts when they’re old enough to understand. Instill discipline and be consistent and firm. Don’t change your rules simply because they are inconvenient. Avoid favoritism by letting one child get away with some rules. Encourage responsibility and accountability by showing that infractions have corresponding consequences.

Show your love

Shower your children will love. Laughter, hugs, and kisses should be part of your daily routine. Provide advice. Give comfort and security. Let excitement and surprises abound. Let them laugh. As a father, you decide the predominant mood in your household. Do you want your home to be happy? Or sad, anxious, or distressed? You have a choice. You have the power to create the emotional tone.

Instill hope

Let your children feel important. Let them express their opinions, concerns, emotional hurts, sources of excitement, and goals. Let them feel good not only about their present but also about their tomorrow. Instill optimism by focusing on positive, uplifting developments rather on discouraging ones. Cultivate a positive attitude by focusing on their skills, talents, and victories rather than on their weaknesses and defeats. Always put them on a pedestal.

Create a mission

Your mission is not just to feed, shelter, and clothe your children. Your mission is to create opportunity, to guide them in finding their passion, to teach them so they can gain wisdom and build character. Your mission is to show them the right path and help find their wings so they can thrive and . . . fly.

Growing up in the Philippines, we didn’t have much. But my father gave me something that I will always treasure. During our long walks in the field together, Papa instilled in me confidence and positive mind-set. He made me believe in myself. As early as age ten, he was already sure that I’d be a physician someday.

He showed me that in life we have only two choices — to either progress or regress, to either add or subtract, to either succeed or fail. For him, the choice is clear.

He showed me the importance of education. In fact, he implanted in me that education is more valuable than money. He expressed, “Nobody can steal your degree away from you. Once you attain it, you’ll own it forever.” This is an advice from a man who never had a degree and despite his meager income, put all of his children to university.

When he visited Clarenville last June 2007, I was thrilled to be with him once again. I was glad that after many years, I could finally thank him for all his sacrifices and for all the life lessons he selflessly shared.

While walking on the beach one summer day, the right moment I’d been waiting for came. And then I finally uttered, “Thank you Papa for what you did to me. Without your sacrifice, I’d be pushing a cart with an empty stomach.”

His response was unexpected but powerful. “It wasn’t me at all. It was all because of you. I’m just glad you’ve helped yourself.” Slowed down by old age, he remained committed to give his son confidence and self-respect.

Fatherhood is both a journey and a destination. After all, once you become a father you will always be one regardless of the circumstance. Make the best of it, take it seriously, and have fun!

Self Published author provides a handbook on fatherhood

Bud Harris’ description of the development of the archetype of the Father by the Greek mythology revitalized masculinity in the form of superhuman strength and asexual. This shows that his theology to what we call this role compromises paternity concentrated and tried to describe the man behind the role.

For him, a father to his family and his spiritual kinship with them. This characterization is deep and personal that someone is not easy to compare the recipes.

Bud Harris also wanders through the false claims of the father character in this self published book “The Father Quest. The extent of his role not as he raises his children, giving them the right training are . A father is devoted to a life of instilling moral values to his children. Harris’ book gives a detailed analysis of this and much more.

Many have this Xlibris release of the therapeutic effect since it claimed a self published author who is a Jungian analyst in Asheville, North Carolina was written. His experience in this particular form of psychotherapy deserves his influence on his readers.

The father is published by Xlibris Quest.

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